There is often a negative connotation with the term “lonely” or the thought of being alone. To this day, when I hear these words, I think they sound sad and like something one would never desire. The truth is, however, I would rather be alone than in bad company. I have learned this throughout my years as a teenager, and coming to this realization makes me more content with how I spend my time alone and makes me enjoy the time spent with good company even more.
Big friend groups are certainly wonderful for some people. I had a big group of friends for a period of time, but I realized that it was not the best group for me. I eventually became distanced from the group, but, prior to the distancing, we had gone on some social outings and I would come home feeling more sad than exhilarated. There were various situations where I would feel left out of conversations and like an outsider to inside jokes. This environment did not make me feel good, and it was then that I realized I would rather be alone than be with people that I did not feel good around. Would not having a friend group feel isolating? It may feel isolating at first, but, once the stigma of being alone is erased, it can be a positive experience. I believe it is important to understand that each individual deserves to be treated with respect, and disrespect should not be tolerated. Social situations or groups that put people down, isolate them, or that are generally unenjoyable should be avoided and abandoned. Almost anything is better than being in a situation where people do not feel good about themselves. Once self-worth is established, it is easier to accept being alone. Each person is his/her own biggest cheerleader, advocate, and supporter. It is important to get comfortable with yourself because you will be with yourself for your entire life and no one else. Additionally, time alone can be enjoyable, as it can be catered to individual needs and desires. For example, the time can be used to meditate, work on a passion project, watch a favorite TV show, or just sit with thoughts. Once unfriendly social situations are rejected and this sense of comfort is established, spending time with people who treat you well and with respect is even more enjoyable. At this point, I enjoy time to myself and do not allow myself to get into social situations where I feel uncomfortable. I would rather be alone than surrounded with people who leave me feeling unhappy. Then, when I am with my friends that make me feel happy and in an environment where we lift each other up, our time together is even more special. Today’s blog post was a little different, as I just wanted to talk about my thoughts on a certain situation, but I hope you enjoyed it. Perhaps you found that this was relatable to you. Have you noticed situations like this in your life? Would you rather be alone than in bad company? Let me know your thoughts on this in the comments. I hope everyone has a great day filled with great company, whether the company is yourself or your wonderful friends.
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Zoe
4/27/2021 05:02:40 pm
I agree that the feeling of being alone in a crowd of people is the worst, and I’m sorry you had to experience that too. I’m glad you were able to get into a better space now though, and I hope you’ve been doing some fun things with your “me time”!
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Real and Relatable (Madeleine)
4/27/2021 08:32:08 pm
It is definitely not a fun feeling, and I am sorry you went through it too. I am having fun with the "me time," and always treasure time with my special friends. I hope you have been able to do the same. Thank you for your thoughtful comment!
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